Marriage Conflict
Why Do I Feel Like I Am Failing as a Spouse No Matter What I Do?
The Short Answer This feeling often comes from an unrealistically high internal standard, not from actually failing at…
Is It Normal to Fantasize About What Life Would Be Like With Someone Else?
The Short Answer Occasional, passing thoughts like this are common and do not automatically mean you want to…
Why Do I Feel Like I Am Grieving the Marriage I Thought I Would Have?
The Short Answer This kind of grief is real and more common than people talk about. Letting go…
Why Does My Spouse Get Defensive Every Time I Bring Up a Problem?
The Short Answer Defensiveness usually comes from feeling attacked or criticized, even when that was not the intention,…
How Do You Know If You Are Settling in Your Marriage?
The Short Answer Settling usually looks like accepting real unhappiness as permanent without ever actually trying to address…
Why Do I Feel Like I Have to Choose Between My Career and My Marriage?
The Short Answer Most of the time, this is not truly an either or choice, but it can…
Why Do I Feel Like I Am Waiting for My Spouse to Change?
The Short Answer Feeling like you are waiting for your spouse to change usually means a real, unmet…
What Should You Do When Your Spouse Refuses to Go to Therapy?
The Short Answer If your spouse refuses couples therapy, you can still go alone, and it can still…
How Do You Know If You Are Enabling Bad Behavior Instead of Being Supportive?
The Short Answer Support helps your spouse grow and take responsibility, while enabling protects them from the natural…
How Do You Know If You Need Couples Therapy or Individual Therapy First?
The Short Answer If a problem clearly involves both of you, couples therapy is usually the right place…
Why Do I Shut Down Instead of Talking When We Argue?
The Short Answer Shutting down during an argument is usually your body’s automatic response to feeling overwhelmed, not…
Why Does My Spouse Bring Up Old Mistakes During New Arguments?
The Short Answer Bringing up old mistakes usually means those past hurts were never fully resolved, so they…