Singles
For readers who are single, dating, or between relationships, working through what they want, what they have learned, and how they show up next time.
Why Do I Feel Pressure From My Family to Settle for Someone Who Isn’t Right for Me?
The Short Answer Family pressure to settle usually comes from their own anxiety about your timeline or status,…
Why Does the Idea of Trusting Someone New Feel Harder After My Last Breakup?
The Short Answer Trusting someone new feels harder after a breakup because your mind is reasonably trying to…
Why Do I Keep Choosing Emotionally Unavailable Partners?
The Short Answer Repeatedly choosing emotionally unavailable partners often happens because their unpredictability keeps you reaching for approval…
Why Do I Feel Like Something Is Wrong With Me for Being Single This Long?
The Short Answer Feeling like something is wrong with you for being single usually comes from treating a…
Why Does Everyone Else’s Relationship Timeline Make Me Panic About My Own?
The Short Answer Comparing your relationship timeline to everyone else’s usually spikes anxiety because it treats a personal,…
Why Do I Sabotage Relationships Right When They Start Going Well?
The Short Answer Pulling away or picking fights right when a relationship starts going well is often a…
Why Did I Lose Myself in My Last Relationship, and How Do I Know I Won’t Again?
The Short Answer Losing yourself in a relationship usually happens gradually, through small accommodations that each felt reasonable…
Why Do I Feel More Anxious About Being Single Than I Did About a Bad Relationship?
The Short Answer Feeling more anxious single than in a bad relationship often means being alone has become…
Why Am I Still Comparing Every New Person to My Ex?
The Short Answer Comparing new people to an ex usually means the relationship, or its ending, has not…
Why Do I Keep Attracting the Same Type of Partner Who Isn’t Good for Me?
The Short Answer Attracting the same type repeatedly usually happens because familiarity feels like chemistry, and what is…