Couples
Practical, professional guidance for married and committed couples working through the everyday friction, distance, and repair that come with sharing a life.
What Does It Mean When Neither of You Wants to Be the First to Apologize?
The Short Answer A standoff where neither person wants to apologize first usually means both people feel hurt…
Why Do I Feel Like I Am Failing as a Spouse No Matter What I Do?
The Short Answer This feeling often comes from an unrealistically high internal standard, not from actually failing at…
Why Do I Feel Like I Have to Choose Sides Between My Spouse and My Family?
The Short Answer Feeling caught between your spouse and your own family usually means a boundary has not…
Is It Normal to Fantasize About What Life Would Be Like With Someone Else?
The Short Answer Occasional, passing thoughts like this are common and do not automatically mean you want to…
Why Do I Feel Like I Am Grieving the Marriage I Thought I Would Have?
The Short Answer This kind of grief is real and more common than people talk about. Letting go…
Why Does My Spouse Get Defensive Every Time I Bring Up a Problem?
The Short Answer Defensiveness usually comes from feeling attacked or criticized, even when that was not the intention,…
How Do You Know If You Are Settling in Your Marriage?
The Short Answer Settling usually looks like accepting real unhappiness as permanent without ever actually trying to address…
Why Do I Feel Like I Have to Choose Between My Career and My Marriage?
The Short Answer Most of the time, this is not truly an either or choice, but it can…
Is It Normal to Feel Lonely on Your Anniversary or Special Occasions?
The Short Answer Feeling lonely on a day meant to celebrate your marriage is more common than people…
Why Do I Feel Like My Spouse Only Notices When Something Goes Wrong?
The Short Answer This pattern usually means attention has drifted toward problems and away from everyday good moments,…
Why Do I Feel Guilty When I Disagree With My Spouse?
The Short Answer Feeling guilty for disagreeing often comes from believing that a good spouse should always agree…
Why Do I Feel Like Our Marriage Is All Business and No Romance?
The Short Answer A marriage that feels all business usually means logistics have taken over the space that…