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Insecurity <>Why Do I Feel Unattractive to My Spouse Even When They Say I Am Not?

The Short Answer Feeling unattractive despite genuine reassurance from your spouse usually has more to do with your…

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Communication Problems <>Why Do My Spouse and I Want Sex at Completely Different Times?

The Short Answer Wanting sex at different times of day is an extremely common mismatch, and it is…

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Emotional Healing <>Why Do I Grieve the Version of My Marriage I Thought I Would Have?

The Short Answer Grieving the marriage you thought you would have is a genuine, valid form of loss,…

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Communication Problems <>Why Do I Avoid Conflict With My Spouse Even When Something Is Wrong?

The Short Answer Avoiding conflict even when something is genuinely wrong usually comes from a learned belief that…

3 min read
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Husband and Wife <>Why Do I Feel Like I Am the One Who Remembers Everything in Our Marriage?

The Short Answer Feeling like the one who remembers everything usually reflects a real, uneven division of the…

3 min read
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Extended Family Problems <>Why Does My Spouse Take Their Family’s Side Over Mine in Disagreements?

The Short Answer A spouse who sides with their family of origin in disagreements is often acting out…

3 min read
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Forgiveness <>Why Does My Spouse Apologize but Never Actually Change?

The Short Answer A spouse who apologizes but does not change is not necessarily insincere, an apology and…

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Communication & Voice <>Why Does My Spouse Go Silent Instead of Arguing When We Disagree?

The Short Answer A spouse who goes silent during disagreement is usually not indifferent to the conflict, they…

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Emotional Disconnection <>Why Does Having Kids Make Us Feel Like Coworkers Instead of a Couple?

The Short Answer Feeling like coworkers after having kids is one of the most common shifts in marriage,…

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Emotional Disconnection <>Why Does It Feel Like My Spouse and I Are Growing at Different Speeds?

The Short Answer Feeling like you are growing at different speeds is a normal and common experience in…

3 min read
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Emotional Healing <>Why Do I Feel Disappointed That Marriage Does Not Look Like I Imagined?

The Short Answer Feeling disappointed that marriage does not match what you imagined is extremely common and does…

3 min read
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Husband and Wife <>Why Do I Feel Like the Only One Managing Everything in Our Household?

The Short Answer Feeling like the only one managing the household usually points to an imbalance in what…

4 min read
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