Couples
Practical, professional guidance for married and committed couples working through the everyday friction, distance, and repair that come with sharing a life.
Why Do I Feel Like I Am Always the One Who Initiates Affection?
The Short Answer Always being the one who initiates affection usually reflects a difference in how each partner…
Why Do I Feel Like I Am Competing With My Spouse’s Job for Their Attention?
The Short Answer Feeling like you are competing with your spouse’s job usually means their attention has become…
Why Do I Feel Unattractive to My Spouse Even When They Say I Am Not?
The Short Answer Feeling unattractive despite genuine reassurance from your spouse usually has more to do with your…
Why Do My Spouse and I Want Sex at Completely Different Times?
The Short Answer Wanting sex at different times of day is an extremely common mismatch, and it is…
Why Do I Grieve the Version of My Marriage I Thought I Would Have?
The Short Answer Grieving the marriage you thought you would have is a genuine, valid form of loss,…
Why Do I Avoid Conflict With My Spouse Even When Something Is Wrong?
The Short Answer Avoiding conflict even when something is genuinely wrong usually comes from a learned belief that…
Why Do I Feel Like I Am the One Who Remembers Everything in Our Marriage?
The Short Answer Feeling like the one who remembers everything usually reflects a real, uneven division of the…
Why Does My Spouse Take Their Family’s Side Over Mine in Disagreements?
The Short Answer A spouse who sides with their family of origin in disagreements is often acting out…
Why Does My Spouse Apologize but Never Actually Change?
The Short Answer A spouse who apologizes but does not change is not necessarily insincere, an apology and…
Why Does My Spouse Go Silent Instead of Arguing When We Disagree?
The Short Answer A spouse who goes silent during disagreement is usually not indifferent to the conflict, they…
Why Does Having Kids Make Us Feel Like Coworkers Instead of a Couple?
The Short Answer Feeling like coworkers after having kids is one of the most common shifts in marriage,…
Why Does It Feel Like My Spouse and I Are Growing at Different Speeds?
The Short Answer Feeling like you are growing at different speeds is a normal and common experience in…